As a 20-something with lots of girlfriends, dating comes up often in conversation. I have four close friends engaged, FOUR. A few of the others are in steady relationships and the rest are attempting to navigate dating as a young adult (AKA the rest are confused as heck).
At one time or another they have all come to me wanting advice, comfort, and direction:
“How do I reply to this text message?”
“Should I give up or keep trying?”
“Am I going to be a 80 year old woman still living on her own?”
“Help, SOS, What do I do?”
…so we are a little dramatic, but you get my point.
Donuts are forever, dudes are whatever…right?
I find it a little ironic that many of my friends question me, considering my dating record is short and not all sweet, but nonetheless I dish out my best, Bible-based advice…usually delivered with sarcasm and a smile.
I often feel like a broken record, repeating the same lines and verses, reassuring and reminding my sweet friends that they are loved and worthy. I finally decided to write it all down and send out some love to all the single ladies.
You are so loved.
You know God, the one who put the stars in the sky. He loves you, every ounce of you.
His love is purer, more patient, and more fulfilling than any love you will get from a man.
You are beautiful.
For you created my inmost being;
you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
your works are wonderful,
I know that full well.
You are His masterpiece, perfectly molded from the your nose down to your toes. Enough pointing out your imperfections and comparing yourself to others. YOU are so wonderfully made.
You are being pursued.
You are always wanted, always being pursued. When you’re staring at your phone waiting for a text or scrolling Facebook for the most eligible bachelor, God wants you and your undivided attention. When you’re feeling lonely, forgotten about, or unimportant, God is pursuing you and your heart. He is seeking out a personal relationship with you. Stop and pursue Him in return.
You are not alone.
Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God.
2 Corinthians 1:3-4
It gets lonely, I get it, but please don’t settle for second best for the sake of comfort. Don’t look for shallow companionship or a quick fix to quiet your loneliness and insecurites. Instead, seek our Father. Pray for comfort, run to His Word, and call ya girl.
You know I’m always game for popcorn in our PJ’s.
His plans for you are so much greater than anything you could imagine.
Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us, to him be glory in the church and in Christ Jesus throughout all generations, for ever and ever! Amen.
Disappointment and discouragement are inevitable and things may not always go your way. Hold on to hope, sister. Our God has such big plans for you, no matter your relationship status.
I’m praying for you.
I pray that you would never forget how loved and valued you are, resting assured that you are a chosen child of God. I pray that you would see your inner and outer beauty, refusing to let negativity reign. I pray that you would always respect yourself and your body, remembering you were handmade and handpicked by God. I pray that you would run full speed towards Jesus in this season, saying yes to the plans He has for your life.
I pray that the way we talk, walk, dress, and date would reflect our loving, gracious, fulfilling Jesus.
You are a cherished daughter of the King, my friend, don’t ever forget it.
Your friend who loves you to the moon and back